I broke up with someone who I considered to be one of my closest friends on December 5th 2009. A couple weeks prior, I had a vision while I was at a Christian conference.
In my vision, I was in church, standing at the front door, calling out for him to come inside because he was outside on the front lawn. But he behaved nonchalant about it. He acted as if he didn’t even hear me and didn’t want to come inside. Then I heard a voice telling me to close the door repeatedly. But I chose to ignore and rebel against the voice — at least I was hesitant in listening to it, until my friend came in. I was afraid of losing him as a friend to the world. But as I reached my hand out to him — tears streaming down my face and yelling out his name — he never came in. As a result of me keeping the door open, a plague of flies began to swarm into the house. They came from his body. I heard the voice tell me to close the door again, but I ignored it because I needed more time. As I continued to rebel, more flies came into the house and started to land on things and infest the place where I was. After my friend ignored my call the last time, I slammed the door close and all of the flies in the house dropped dead.
God revealed the meaning of the vision to me as follows: The church represents me; my body; my temple. The voice, or internal conscious that was speaking to me was the Holy Spirit. My friend standing outside on the front lawn represents him being in the world. The flies represented unclean spirits. And flies attach themselves to dead things. The flies, or unclean spirits were surrounding my friend’s body because he was dead — dead in sin. The flies coming through the open door of the church was symbolic of me allowing unclean spirits to come into my life and attach themselves to my soul.
I wanted my friend to get saved more than he wanted himself to get saved. I found myself praying and fasting and interceding for him, but it was all vain because he didn’t want deliverance for himself. Every man must work out his own salvation. I was disobedient to God after he told me to stop being friends with the guy. I had put him before God and made him my idol. Therefore, God took his covering away from me. He lifted his grace off of me and that allowed for bad things to come into my life. I noticed that I was dealing with things that I usually don’t have a problem with. I started to act like my friend and imitate minor habits that he had. The guy had many spirits on him that I unnecessarily allowed to attach to me because we were in communication with one another when it was against the will of God.
We were attached to each other not only in the physical, but in the spiritual realm as well. That’s called being in an ungodly soul-tie. I had to close that door of communication with him in the physical realm. The first thing I did was called him and gave him the gospel of Jesus Christ, told him we couldn’t be friends anymore because God has another plan for my life, deleted his number out of my phone, threw away pictures I had of him, deleted him off of all my social networks, [anything that would cause me to reminisce of him and keep me in bondage to him], renounced the ungodly soul-tie that I had created with him during my disobedience, and prayed to God to forgive me. And after I did that, those spirits had to come under authority and die off of me. He had the spirit of lust, vanity, sexual immorality, and rebellion on him, but now that we aren’t friends anymore, I feel like I’ve been released from those spirits. Praise God!!!
Then God brought me to:
11 “Whom have you so dreaded and feared
that you have been false to me,
and have neither remembered me
nor pondered this in your hearts?
Is it not because I have long been silent
that you do not fear me?
12 I will expose your righteousness and your works,
and they will not benefit you.
13 When you cry out for help,
let your collection of idols save you!
The wind will carry all of them off,
a mere breath will blow them away.
But the man who makes me his refuge
will inherit the land
and possess my holy mountain.”
22 “How long will you simple ones love your simple ways?
How long will mockers delight in mockery
and fools hate knowledge?
23 If you had responded to my rebuke,
I would have poured out my heart to you
and made my thoughts known to you.
24 But since you rejected me when I called
and no one gave heed when I stretched out my hand,
25 since you ignored all my advice
and would not accept my rebuke,
26 I in turn will laugh at your disaster;
I will mock when calamity overtakes you-
27 when calamity overtakes you like a storm,
when disaster sweeps over you like a whirlwind,
when distress and trouble overwhelm you.
28 “Then they will call to me but I will not answer;
they will look for me but will not find me.
29 Since they hated knowledge
and did not choose to fear the LORD,
30 since they would not accept my advice
and spurned my rebuke,
31 they will eat the fruit of their ways
and be filled with the fruit of their schemes.
32 For the waywardness of the simple will kill them,
and the complacency of fools will destroy them;
33 but whoever listens to me will live in safety
and be at ease, without fear of harm.”
2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and the devil? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What communion is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” “Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you.” “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty.”
My son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them.
Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?
1 Corinthians 15:33-34
Bad company corrupts good character. Come back to your senses as you ought, and stop sinning! For there are some who are ignorant of God–I say this to shame you.
Basically God was telling me, “Who do you have such a relationship with, that you listen to and care about them more than you care about me and what I say? I know what’s best for you. But since you don’t want to listen to my rebuke, then when you’re in trouble, and need help, go to your friend and let him save you… But watch and see he won’t be able to. He will come in your life, and when a storm blows or a difficult situation arises, watch him flee. But if you come to me for help, I will be your refuge. I will never leave nor forsake you. You will be my son and I will be your God.
I love how God is such a jealous God, that he doesn’t want anyone to get in the way of the relationship he has with you. He’s willing to keep you from those who he knows will bring trouble in your life. Are you that intimate with God? Or are you intimate with that person or thing [idol] that you have put in God’s place?
Ask yourself this question: Did your friend die for you? Can they grant you salvation?
You may be afraid to break up with that person because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, but understand that you salvation is way more important than their feelings. They will eventually get over their feelings, and so will you, but if you die in your sins and go to Hell, you cannot come back from there.
Check out this poem from the Passion For Christ Movement:
4 thoughts on “Un-Godly Soul Ties”
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Yes, glory to God! He deserves all the glory!
If you struggle with an ungodly soul-tie, just know that there is power in the name of Jesus to break every chain.
A soul tie is a strong spiritual connection between two persons. Soul ties can be either healthy or unhealthy depending on the person you are connecting with. That’s why God said do not be unequally yoked in a relationship with someone who is not on the same page as you are — you will be greatly influenced by whoever you associate with.
Sex is probably the quickest, but not the only way to get a soul tie with someone. Just spending an unrestrained amount of time with a person and talking to them excessively can cause a soul tie to be formed as well.
Remember, Jesus said that words are spirit. Words have the power to loosen or to bind. If you say something to me that offends or hurts me, our relationship will loosen up or stray apart. But if you flirt with me with seducing and flattering words and say all the right things to me, you will bind me up and cause me to get sprung on you.
I haven’t had sex with this one individual, for example, but because I’ve spent way more time talking to them than I should have, it created a 3 year soul tie that I’m just now gettting over…
Watch who you hang out with. Because bad company corrupts good character. So if someone has a great influence on you and are turning you away from your moral values and away from the laws of God, separate yourself from them. Also, watch what you say out your mouth. Words create soul ties as well, because words are bond.