SEX is a creation of God, and like everything else He has created, it is GOOD!
Sex is a wedding gift from God to be enjoyed exclusively between a husband and his wife. It is an important aspect in a married couple’s life, so much so, that in the Beginning, God actually made it a commandment. For he had said to the Man and the woman, “Be fruitful and multiply and subdue the earth.” One of God’s original designs for sex is for reproduction, so that a husband and wife can birth godly offspring and replicate the image and likeness of God on the earth. Apostle Paul even addressed the issue of sex to the Church of Corinth when he said:
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Healthy sex within marriage helps the couple bond, or become one, and it protects the couple from committing fornication. It gives the couple an avenue to fulfill their sexual urges without having to step out in an adulterous affair, using pornography, or indulging in other acts of sexual immorality. That’s why Apostle Paul suggested that married couples should not deprive each other of sex for a long period of time, because it will bring a temptation to fulfill those sexual urges by some other mean.
Satan perverted the usage of sex though. He deceived Mankind by having us to believe that we don’t need God’s permission to have sex. He deceived us into thinking that we can indulge in sex outside of the boundaries that God has set up. When we have sex outside of the boundaries of marriage, it’s as if we are stealing a gift from God that he hasn’t given to us yet, because we are not in covenant. Premarital sex may feel pleasurable to our flesh, but since we don’t have the blessings from God to do it, our sexual experiences are usually always followed by feelings of guilt, shame, regret, remorse, sorrow, self-condemnation, hypocrisy, emptiness, and depression. These strong feelings of conviction come because we are prematurely, and illegally operating in sexual activity.
But when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord! When we have sex within a God-ordained marriage, our marriage bed becomes undefiled (and that doesn’t mean “no-holds-barred” or “anything goes,” but rather, it means holy, pure, set apart. So yes, that means there is still a standard of holiness that we should uphold even in the marriage bed). Marriage between a man and woman is honorable to God above all other type of relationships–friends with benefits, one night stands, ménage à trois, adultery, fornication, dl homosexual affairs, etc.
When we have sex within marriage, we don’t have to worry about feeling guilt, shame or remorse. I know I didn’t. After every sexual encounter I had during my single life, whether with men or women, I always felt convicted. But when I made love to my wife for the first time, I felt pure, peaceful, assured, confident and innocent. I’ve never felt sooo refreshed after having a sexual experience! The best part about sex in marriage is that when you do it God’s way, you don’t have to repent afterwards!